Posts by David McFadden

I officiated the ceremony for Robert and Rachel in a forest preserve on Saturday, June 16 which was a day that came close to setting the record high temperature and the wedding was in the full sun at 1:00 PM.  Guest had to park about ¼ mile away and they had a golf card shuttling them to the remote campground where the ceremony took place.  Robert and Rachel got engaged at this very spot and it was an ideal location for their wedding.  The bride and bridesmaids all had lanterns instead of flower bouquets.  The guests waited under the trees in the shade before the wedding started.  There were coolers of cold water and hand held fans for all the guests.  Robert and Rachel wrote their own vows and both got an applause from their family and friends when they were done.  It was a very warm day but we all acclimated to the heat and it was not as bad as you would think it could be.  This was a very fun wedding with a very down to earth group of people.

Michael and Tina choose me as their wedding officiant for their June 23, 2018 wedding at Venuti’s Italian Restaurant & Banquet Hall.  I had the opportunity to attend the rehearsal dinner in the restaurant and it was a wonderful meal and what a friendly family to meet!  Michael and Tina wrote their own vows and when they read them to each other it was very emotional for both of them.  Their guests and family were very fun loving and they had a great ceremony filled with family involvement.

I officiated the wedding for Johnny and Rabiya at Chateau Ritz in Niles on Milwaukee Road on June 23, 2018.  It was my first time at this venue and it is a great setting for a wedding,  There is plenty of parking, a great upstairs room for the bride to prepare and it is big enough that they took lots of pictures in it before the wedding.  The hall was very large and they can actually handle two events at the same time.  This was a fun wedding.  We did not have a rehearsal but things were very well organized and it was a flawless ceremony.  In Rabiya’s heritage is a tradition in which the bride’s family accompanies her down the aisle and they hold a large veil above her as they walk in.  It was really cool to see and they both have fun families.

I just had a wedding at Blumen Gardens in Sycamore, my second time to officiate a wedding there.  This venue has a rustic indoor setting that is absolutely great and a wonderful outdoor wedding setting and they have huge garden areas scattered about.
The outdoor wedding today was scheduled to start at 6 and everything was set up early.  There had not been rain in the forecast, BUT it was coming down steady for over an hour before the wedding.  When I arrived the bride and groom, Candace and Doug, told me they were going to hold off making a call on moving inside until 6:15 when radar showed the rain leaving the area.  Sure enough, at 6:15 it stopped and a few minutes later the Blumen Gardens staff went out and started drying off the chairs with a huge box of towels.  Then they followed up with a leaf type blower on every chair.  Within 15 – 20 minutes they had things dried and ready to go.  Another 15 or so minutes later the guests were seated and we got started.
The staff at Blumen was excellent and went above and beyond the call of duty to help Candice and Doug have the type of wedding they had always dreamed of.  We could have moved inside but everyone probably would have been standing throughout the ceremony – so outside was the better choice.  I watched and listened to the staff as they repeatedly checked in with Candace regarding what to do.  They did not try to pressure her to move the wedding inside so that everything would fit their time schedule.  I have been in similar circumstances in other venues and there usually is not much patience to wait out the rain.  (to be fair, other venues often plan more than one wedding a day AND they want to get their staff out of there on time at the end of the day)
The staff told Candice they could get the job done.  They talked to the caterer and worked it out so that hors d’oeuvres could be brought out before the wedding and then announced to the guests that there was a delay and they would be served.  This took care of the guests and they ate and drank and visited with each other.  The staff fixed everything, covered all the bases and did a lot of extra work.  There was no fuss about it!  They were there to serve and did their level best so that Candice had the wedding she had dreamed of and planned for.
About  20 minutes after the wedding was originally supposed to start I spoke with Candice as she struggled with what to do.  I told her, everyone is here to spend the evening at your wedding and reception. This is YOUR wedding and you should have the wedding you wanted if we can pull it off.  Everyone will be fine if we start later, so I think it is worth the wait.  She thanked me and said she liked my thinking.
This wedding was in the top ten of those I have officiated.  These two really love each other and it was so evident in the ceremony.  I always have two brand new handkerchiefs in my pocket in case the bride or groom needs one.  Debbie buys them by the dozen for me.  In this case I gave away two brand new handkerchiefs.  The bride and groom each prepared vows to read to each other.  The groom was even more emotional than the bride as he pledged his love.  It was very moving and the guest broke out in applause after each of them finished their vows.
I commend Blumen Gardens for their patience, extra hard work, understanding, creativity, ability to go with the flow, problem solving thinking and desire to serve others to the best of their ability.  Doug and Candace got what they paid for and it was delivered with a caring attitude and a smile.  I am so glad for them.
I got away from the wedding at least an hour later than I had originally planned, but that was no problem.  Debbie and I cooked supper together and ate after 8 PM.  We had fun working on it together and I was able to put together 2 suppers for next week from the leftovers.  We have a good marriage and that is probably a big part of why I am so passionate about marriage and helping people get theirs on the right track.  This was a really good day to be alive and involved!
Oh . . . by the way . . . about 5 minutes after I left the venue and was on my way home a light rain started up again.  By the time it hit the Blumen Gardens I am sure everyone was inside for the reception.  Thanks God for holding it off just long enough!

Dan and Myia were married on May 4 in Sycamore at the Blumen Gardens which is a nursery and garden store and also has a wonderful gift shop. They also host weddings and have a beautiful courtyard for weddings as well as “the Garden” room which is a great setting for wedding and receptions. Dan and Myia are a fun loving couple and have a lot of fun and friendly family and friends. Their two yearold son was a great flower boy and also insisted on joining in the ceremony. Mom and dad handled it well and he was right there with us for the first half of the ceremony. Grandma stepped in and took care of him for the second half. These guys were great to work with and prepared both funny and very emotionally moving vows for each other. It was a privilege to be a part of their big day.

I was the officiant for the wedding ceremony of Grace and Mark on March 24th. The wedding took place at the Bristol on Damen in Chicago. We had the entire upper level and it’s a nice spot for a group of 30 to 40 people. The friends and family of the bride and groom were very fun loving and supportive group. I was positioned less than 2 feet in front of a fireplace that was burning. At one point I leaned over and told both the bride and groom that my ass was getting hot. That brought a smile to their faces and calmed down some of the nervousness that couples often experience during a wedding. This was a great couple to work with and I was glad to be a part of their wedding day!

I officiated the wedding for Amy and Jordan on March 24th in Plainfield. The Venue is called Warehouse 109. One of one of the side walls has a dozen vintage Harley and Indian motorcycles on display. The wedding was originally planned to be outside but it was too cold of a March day and inside the warehouse worked out perfectly. A food Vender right outside the main door had a large wood oven and made wood fired pizza to order for the guests. The house was packed with very friendly family and friends.

I officiated for Art and Michelle at Villa Olivia Olivia this Saturday. Afterwards I hurried to my grandson Gus’s 2nd birthday party! I missed the cake and candles but got back in time to help him play with his new truck! What a fun weekend.